Ever used that line? I know I have. That color shirt just isn’t my thing, or that style of doing church just isn’t what we are looking for, or that activity isn’t for me. We use it to state a preference to others (hopefully) inoffensively.
But earlier today I was dragging myself to the living room for an early morning workout session. Getting my body back after baby takes WORK! And since I was alone (!) and the house was quiet, I was complaining to the only intelligent individual around: myself.
“But I’m tired! I only got 5 hours of sleep last night, and the baby was up three times in those five hours! I really deserve a nap before the kids get up. Yep, I’m going to make a cup of tea and settle back down for a while…” And I stopped. Images of the dresses I want to rock again- summer and swimming at the lake- being able to out work my kids again- all those images flashed through my sleep fogged brain.
There is this horrible truth in life; that dreams and goals are great, but unless you take action you won’t ever reach them. I won’t get abs again without putting in the work. I won’t educate my children well by just throwing books at them. I won’t build successful friendships by wishing for them. All the good things in life take work.
Our oldest children are learning this lesson in earnest. High school is much more challenging than elementary school was- especially Biology. This class requires lots of reading, critical thought, papers to be turned in on time and LEGIBLE, good study habits… good grades in Biology are not given based on your good looks! And one young person readily accepted the challenge, while the other messed around all of the fall semester and ended up practically failing at Christmas break. We had a come-to-Jesus moment, and once said young person realized they would be retaking biology next year instead of moving on to chemistry with all of their friends, they decided to put in the work. To actually use the “S” word… Study.
So. Working out is “not for me”. It isn’t fun or comfortable. Hot brownies a la mode are FOR ME. But they are counterproductive to my health goals. Sadness.
Studying is “not for my kids”. Playing with horses and building things from scrap wood is FOR THEM. But they had darn well better do it if they intend to graduate from high school any time this century. The goal is worth the discomfort of the work.
What about you? What goals and dreams in your life could become reality with a little hard work and consistency? You can do it- you were made for excellence. Don’t settle for the guilty comfort of mediocrity. You are able to win. Go out there and do it.